This movie leaves you with warmth and a wry smile buried in sadness….


If you are thinking… :- “I don’t need to go to the movies to see a man fall in love with his phone.”

Well, trust me. You do!


So, a few days back I finally got a chance to watch this masterpiece- “her“. I found it so hard to comprehend how I actually felt after watching the movie. I could not sleep that night because I was so disturbed about the message this movie tried to give. It felt like Theodore Twombly is me. We are so alike. The world shown in the movie, we have already reached it’s anigif_enhanced-buzz-17356-1391493207-8beginning. And the movie is going to be a reality… very, very soon. I can so feel it. I can so see it. The emptiness of computerized communications. All of us more interested in the world inside our phones. Everyone is ignoring everyone for the world of internet and technology. We are least interested to live in the moment with the person sitting next to us but more in what our social networking sites are offering us. We ignore the beautiful souls sitting next to us, internally begging for our attention and lost ourselves in the fictional world. The beautiful nature pleading to enjoy it’s warmth and vibrancy but we are busy taking it’s pictures from different angles, adding filters, thinking of a cool caption & hash tag and posting it on Instagram. The delicious food waiting for us to savor its myriad of flavors but we are fidgeting with our phones to capture a picture. An evening date planned out with friends to talk about our lives, latest happenings, new relationships, new changes, our feelings about the New Year is all put on hold to get a fancy group selfie and a Facebook check-in post. Hmph… See? How the things are going?

We love the solitude, melancholy, do-not-disturb signs of our rooms. We avoid hanging out with people for real but love to chat all day on internet with strangers and may be friends too (with whom we havetumblr_n1j6l8evxF1tn59xho1_250 all the time in the world to chat but to meet in person). We are slowly forgetting the ways to interact in speech, to express, to laugh, to cry for real and have learnt to type our responses, put smileys or slangs and internet short forms for our feelings. Isn’t it all just so sad? All of this is taking us more far away from each other, slowly… day by day & we are extremely busy with our heads bent into our phones to actually realize the fact. The more connected we are, the less connected we feel. And we are all drifting to loneliness, slowly… day by day. We all know it, but are to proud or may be scared to actually admit it to ourselves or others.

Sometimes we all need to be alone, not to be lonely.


So, this movie starts with Theodore Twombly, who is in a profession to write personal, intimate, hand written letters for others. (And gosh, he writes such beautiful letters, with a software of course. Each one so intimate and full of passion. You fall in love with the words). He is basically a lonely, introvert who has all these feelings in him but not a soul to share with. So, as the world is so busy in technology & internet, ignoring the real world, no time to write their loved ones a letter by themselves, people like Theodore are hired to write one for them. And Theodore put all these feelings in his letters for people to find, what he can’t.

So, one day, he finally finds someone to share himself with. But wait! It’s not a voice (female voice) with a human flesh & body organs attached to it, it’s an OS (Operating System). OS1, an operating system with artificial intelligence, designed to adapt andHER-FP-0833.JPG evolve. And the OS names itself Samantha. They develop an unusual relationship and yes, fall in love. But by the end of the movie, Theodore realizes that what he is seeking, what will make him happy are the real human emotions and not an OS who is kind of in love with hundreds of more human beings like him. He ends up having some momentary joy with the operating system but much like computer porn, he is unsatisfied and ends up with a real human.

So, this movie ends with all these feelings coming to you and a huge list of questions and realizations. Are not we are headed there? Are we all letting the life pass us by while we are too busy keeping our eyes and fingers glued to our smart phones? It’s true, I love my smart phone. It keeps me updated, it is convenient, a time-saver, speedy and all but it also keeps me on an electronic leash. I can’t help but wonder, isn’t it that the more our daily lives go online, the quality time is forsaken in regards of quantity, in the form of an avalanche of meaningless messages?💁 The fact is, as much as I love my smart phone, I feel a bit enslaved by it.  Every time it dings and flashes the green light, I feel compelled to check it. Immediately! Out of habit or restlessness or what, I don’t know. 😦 And the most annoying thing is when you are out with people, hanging out, you all keep checking your phones. Come on man, no body died while you were ignoring your smart phone and paying attention to the real life person who was right in front of you. Well, sadly, we are all guilty of that. 😦 We need to recognize our compulsion and try to break ourselves from it. I am trying to do that. So, after watching this movie, I promised myself to switch off my internet button on my smart phone whenever I go out and try to have real conversations, real moments, real life… just like old times. 🙂 God, how I miss those old times. 😦 I don’t want to lose my humanity to a computer or become one of those people who only knows how to relate to others online. I don’t want to miss out on having a great time at a concert or a sports event because I’m too busy ‘checking in’ about the great time I’m having. Whatever the new update, new, email, tweet, Instagram picture & Facebook status is there, it can wait. Or may be it can wait forever… I wish 😦 So, Lovers, let me know your thoughts on this… the movie & how you feel about your electronic leash. 😉 And if there are any suggestions on how to fight these compulsions. Thank you for reading. 🙂 Much love: pcb

PS : I wanted to share some fabulous quotes from the movie “her” 🙂 :-

Samantha: It’s like I’m reading a book… and it’s a book I deeply love. But I’m reading it slowly now. So the words are really far apart and the spaces between the words are almost infinite. I can still feel you… and the words of our story… but it’s in this endless space between the words that I’m finding myself now. It’s a place that’s not of the physical world. It’s where everything else is that I didn’t even know existed. I love you so much. But this is where I am now. And this is who I am now. And I need you to let me go. As much as I want to, I can’t live in your book any more.

Theodore: Sometimes I think I have felt everything I’m ever gonna feel. And from here on out, I’m not gonna feel anything new. Just lesser versions of what I’ve already felt.




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